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and everything in between.Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316615388589262443noreply@blogger.comBlogger278125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569162512765099030.post-22940428190406247722017-02-09T16:27:00.003-08:002017-02-09T16:27:56.346-08:00Brutal. Some days are just...brutal.And today is absolutely one of those days!<br />
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It snowed last night which earned us a two hour delay. I was excited for the extra time with the twinadoes and even more please when our whole morning routine went smoothly. No tears, no arguments, we all walked out the door smiling.<br />
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We were about ten minutes early to school and waiting at the car rider door when things changed. Miss A jammed a 'ring' (in reality, it was the sight off of a pair of toy binoculars) on to her index finger and got it stuck.<br />
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I tried sanitizer. I tried lotion. Being in the car, my resources were limited. Between her dramatic screams I noticed her finger was swelling and she said it was really sore. So - with school still not open, we buckled back up and headed to the ER.<br />
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An hour from the actual time of the incident the ER docs (all two of them!) finally freed her. Her finger was still in tact, albeit a little read and sore but we survived.<br />
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I don't talk a whole lot the inner workings at home any more, but reality is - some days parenting is hard. Some days parenting Addison is <i>really</i> hard. She's a very unique individual. With a complex and sometimes confusing set of challenges.<br />
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When she struggles, I (we) struggle.<br />
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Kindergarten has been a huge challenge for her. She doesn't learn like her peers, but she works her but off and we've got an amazing team - doing absolutely EVERYTHING they can do for her to help her succeed. And she is succeeding, at her own pace. Doesn't mean she's not struggling.<br /><br />She's misunderstood. People look at her and look at me and think I'm nuts when they hear about her challenges. These people don't see the fights in the morning over socks that feel funny. Pants that tickle. Tags that are attacking her back. And don't even get me started on need to brush her hair. Nearly every morning there are tears. I can't fix things and make them not bother her. (Lord have we tried.)<br />
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I've never met a child more resilient, brave and strong though - because no matter how uncomfortable she is, she pushes through.<br />
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Still there are things she does not understand. I cannot even imagine how in a split second she got this silly toy stuck to her finger, how she ever got it over her knuckle to begin with or how she didn't think, "This isn't going on, maybe I should not push it."<br /><br />Pieces don't always connect for her. What seems logical to you, me, heck even Mr. B - they're not so logical to her.<br />
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One thing I've heard over and over this year, with school is that she doesn't fit any certain criteria. She may struggle with one thing, but do great with another part of the same things, like letters. Her teacher gave me this example, when identifing letters - Addi could id the letter 'v', later during a writing assignment - she asked how to spell 'cave' and the teacher prompted her 'c...a...v...e....", she wrote the letter 'v' without having it pointed out to her. It's hard even for them to find the pieces.<br />
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I don't know how to accurately explain today, because it wasn't just the toy stuck to her finger after that. It all went down hill. She's been extra emotional today. Into everything. As in, cannot be left alone for a split second without doing something she knows is off limits.<br />
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- Much like the night she emptied all the groceries from the fridge and laid them on the floor. Because 'you're not supposed to put the grocery bags in the fridge and I wanted to help.' Except she missed the part about putting all the stuff back in the fridge, sans bags.<br />
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- Or the times she sleep walks and tours the whole house. Thankfully, most of the time, if I don't hear her, Remi does and lets us know.<br />
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Most nights, Addi (and Blake) find their way into our bed. I sleep horribly but, I know they're safe. Addison is usually wrapped so tightly to me that I <i>know</i> when she moves. So yeah, it sucks sometimes, but I'm ok with it.<br />
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We're all learning and adapting.<br />
<br />Yes some of it is typical 5/6 year old behavior. And it's ok. It really is. But some days are really really hard.<br />
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Today was one of those days.<br />
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When you have a child with any kind of special needs, it's hard for other people to relate. Hard for them to understand. And sometimes that comes across in odd ways. So, know I'm not being mean or rude when I say we can't do certain things or my kids can't have certain things. I'm not crazy, I'm not overprotective. I'm just the one who spends the bulk of time with them and I know their needs. I can usually predict their reactions to things. (Usually ;) ). My only goal in life is to keep them alive and healthy and happy. Nothing else matters. Really.<br />
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<3<div class="blogger-post-footer">Any content seen here is property of Our Valentine's Day Surprise except where otherwise noted. Use of this content is prohibited without expressed written permission.</div>Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316615388589262443noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569162512765099030.post-43700745653145281442016-08-24T06:36:00.000-07:002016-08-24T06:36:01.715-07:00Kindergarten - What? Whoa!I know, I said I was stepping away from this blogging thing. But guess what? It's hard to do. <br /><br />I just have too many words.<br /><br />Yup, themes will be shifting gears here, I've still got to figure out how I want to do that, but - here's a little something about the twins....<br /><br />They started K this year. It's full day which means I've got a lot of time on my hands now. <br /><br />This is what I posted on FB the day they started school....<br /><br />"There were days when we wondered... would they walk, would they talk? What would be Addison's cognitive abilities? Six years ago, they were literally very tiny little embryos growing. Five years ago they were home and we were elbows deep in feeding tubes, counting calories and every therapy service under the sun as well as countless doctor's appts.<br /><br />We still worried and wondered.<br /><br />Today, I watched as they walked inside school, hand in hand. Tomorrow, they'll get on the 'big kid bus' and they'll be gone all day.<br /><br /><br />I'll cry, I'll miss them like crazy, and I'll worry. But above all, I'll rejoice because out of all of the darkness - the infertility, the IVF, the high risk pregnancy and the NICU stay - there has come so much light. So much hope. And growth.<br /><br />They've surpassed every expectation, every 'should' and 'could', they've defied the odds. And because of that, I'm proud.<br /><br />This year is opening doors for big changes for all of us, and I'm excited to see where it will lead. For the last 5 years I've been a full time mom - 24/7. I wouldn't change it for the world. But now, I'll be finding myself too, while Addison and Blake are off finding who they are too. Without each other (separate classes) and without me too.<br /><br />Just remember friends and family, nothing is impossible. Even the word itself says "I'm Possible".<br /><br />And now I shall go cry myself to sleep LOL."<div class="blogger-post-footer">Any content seen here is property of Our Valentine's Day Surprise except where otherwise noted. Use of this content is prohibited without expressed written permission.</div>Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316615388589262443noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569162512765099030.post-85842039521524373582016-02-09T14:29:00.000-08:002016-02-09T14:29:25.868-08:00What's a Mom to do?If you've been following the blog for some time, then you know... in about 5-6 days the twins will be 5.<br />
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There are still things going on in their lives but as they've grown, I've been finding myself again.<br />
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I've promised over and over that I'd get this blog back up and running, but truth is.... I think it's time to just accept reality. There just isn't as much to report.<br />
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So with that, I think I'm just going to leave this blog here, check in occasionally, but start pursuing my true passion which is reading books and writing love stories.<br />
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I'll still be here for all our preemie friends and will always be around for support. But this is truly on the back burner.<br />
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In my last post I briefly mentioned some changes I was making to the blog. The focus and content mostly.<br />
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So .... Coming January 1st, I'll be relaunching the blog with all new content and a new design.<br />
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I'll still be updating about the wonder twins and all that good stuff, but as they grow, my life has changed so the new look will reflect that. So, until then, pardon the dust and stay tuned.<br />
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In a matter of seconds my entire world changed, and it was in that moment that I stopped living and simply began to exist.
In my grief, I sent a letter to the first boy I ever loved. I hoped in writing it I’d find some peace from the nightmare I was living, some solace in my anger.
I didn’t expect him to write back. I wasn’t prepared for his words, and I certainly wasn’t ready for the impact this soldier would have on my life. A deep-rooted hate transformed into friendship, and then molded into a love like I’d never known before.
Sergeant Devin Ulysses Clay did what I couldn’t: he put the shattered pieces of my heart back together, restoring my faith in humanity and teaching me how to live again.
But now that I’m whole, I have a decision to make. Do I return to my life as I knew it and the fiancé I left behind, or do I walk away from it all for the only man to ever break my heart?<br>
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I’ve been living in hell, but you won’t hear me complain.
These men depend on me, as I do them, and this brotherhood is the only family I’ve ever known.
The Army saved me from a callous mother and a life on the wrong side of the tracks that was quickly spiraling out of control. So unlike most of the men in my platoon, going home wasn’t something I longed for.
I was content overseas, spending my days defending this country that gave me my life back. Fighting became my new normal … until her.
A letter from Katie Devora—a letter that I almost didn’t open. Her words put a fire back inside of me that I didn’t know I’d lost. She gave me hope during a time when I was fighting every day just to stay alive, and now it’s time I fight for her.<br>
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<strong></strong><strong></strong><strong>About the Authors:</strong><br>
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<strong></strong><strong>K.L. Grayson</strong> resides in a small town outside of St. Louis, MO. She is entertained daily by her extraordinary husband, who will forever inspire every good quality she writes in a man. Her entire life rests in the palms of six dirty little hands, and when the day is over and those pint-sized cherubs have been washed and tucked into bed, you can find her typing away furiously on her computer. She has a love for alpha-males, brownies, reading, tattoos, sunglasses, and happy endings…and not particularly in that order.<br>
Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KL-Grayson/1403900879892076?ref=hl">https://www.facebook.com/pages/KL-Grayson/1403900879892076?ref=hl</a><br>
Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/authorklgrayson">https://twitter.com/authorklgrayson</a><br>
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<strong></strong><strong>Taylor Urruela</strong> was an infantryman in the US Army from August 2004 until February 2011. At the end of a year long tour in Baghdad, IQ, his vehicle was hit by two roadside bombs, which took his right leg below the knee and the life of his commander. He was awarded the Purple Heart for his wounds, an Army Commendation Medal and Combat Infantryman’s Badge. He medically retired from the Army in 2011 and moved to Tampa, FL where he currently works as a Director and Brand Ambassador of VETSports, a veteran community sports nonprofit he co-founded in 2012. He also conducts speaking engagements and he’s a personal trainer for Tampa Sports Academy.<br>
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Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/BTUArmy">https://twitter.com/BTUArmy</a><br>
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<br>Edited 11:02pm 6th Oct 2015 - <div><br></div><div>Find my review below:<br><div><br></div><div>http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/1410385479</div><div><br>
<span style="font-size: x-small;">I have not been compensated for this blog post. OurValentinesDaySurprise is not responsible for this Rafflecopter Giveaway. I'm just a mommy blogger who loves to read, is a fan of BT Urruela, and wanted to support these two amazing authors on their release day. Any reviews given on this blog are of my own opinion and do not reflect any views but my own unless otherwise stated. </span><div class="blogger-post-footer">Any content seen here is property of Our Valentine's Day Surprise except where otherwise noted. Use of this content is prohibited without expressed written permission.</div>Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316615388589262443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569162512765099030.post-81226884219928188732015-10-03T07:15:00.002-07:002015-10-03T07:15:11.423-07:00Kicking the Dust OffSo what do you do when an author asks you to pimp their new book on your blog? You dust that bad boy off and clean it up.<br />
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Don't worry, I'll still talk about the twins (and post a very long overdue update). But as my children grow, my focus is changing a little bit. I've got more time on my hands and I love reading so I'll be adding my love of reading to this blog.<br />
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Stick around while we're under construction and be sure to check back on Oct 6th to see what my first official release blitz looks like... (you're not going to want to miss this!)<div class="blogger-post-footer">Any content seen here is property of Our Valentine's Day Surprise except where otherwise noted. Use of this content is prohibited without expressed written permission.</div>Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316615388589262443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569162512765099030.post-20742165006047345332015-04-29T18:11:00.001-07:002015-04-30T08:03:07.566-07:00Addison - 4 year old update<p dir="ltr">Gah....  I cannot believe the twins are four....FOUR. I seriously don't know how that happened. Four years ago we were praying and hoping and wondering if we'd make it this far.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Good news is, we are and we are thriving. </p>
<p dir="ltr">But I feel the need to say this.... prematurity does not end when you leave the NICU.  Not every preemie catches up by age two (or three) in spite of what many statistics and clinicians have said. I'm also going to say that, not every preemie will suffer long term delays.</p>
<p dir="ltr">We are still dealing with lingering effects from Addison being born prematurly. I never thought at four years old we'd still be in OT, PT, and Behavioral Therapy. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Has she made huge strides? HELL YES!<br>
Has she narrowed the gap between where she is and where she should be? ABSOLUTELY! </p>
<p dir="ltr">BUT, is she developmentally your average "typical" four year old? Not quite. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Things is though, most of her delays are hiding behind the scenes; mostly. I see it because I'm with her everyday. Her current teacher and her therapists see it. </p>
<p dir="ltr">So as I said, she is still in PT; working on balance, low tone and core strength. She's also in the process of getting orthotics to help with her ankle stability among other things. Truth be told Addison is pretty excited about this because she got to pick out the design and as if there was any doubt, she'll be rocking fairy princesses.</p>
<p dir="ltr">A month ago we added Behavioral Therapy - probably sounds odd for a four year old. But... she has some anxiety and self esteem issues that we are building on. She asks a lot of questions because she is often so uncertain of things. And a lot of time it's on repeat.  But it's her way of reassurance. We often spend a lot of time going over social stories to help her understand what's happening. </p>
<p dir="ltr">After being on the wait list for awhile, we've now also added Occupational therapy, again. She struggles with fine motor and motor planning. Some of that motor planning comes into play with the above too. Addison will have a handful of different goals to work towards here.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Truth is, when we went to her OT eval, I had totally been expecting them to add services. But when we walked out, and I had a moment to myself; I cried. Because frankly, it sucks. And I wish that Addison didn't have to struggle. </p>
<p dir="ltr">As much as I don't want all of this to define Addison... it does. It has made her fierce, brave, strong, and probably most of all DETERMINED! And I couldn't possibly be more proud of her. She is constant reminder to me to never take a single moment for granted and to never underestimate.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Her Cleft Palate team was overwhelmingly pleased with her in October and the fabulous news is that her speech is on track. Doctor even thinks we might have gotten away with just ONE surgery. Time will tell. <br>
Up next is Pre K/preschool interviews. We've narrowed it down to two. Unfortunately our district doesn't offer public Pre K currently so we are going to private Pre K to prep both Addison and Blake for the big K!</p>
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<p dir="ltr">Well... I'm back, because I have lots to say. And some big updates on the twins. </p>
<p dir="ltr">So let's start here...</p>
<p dir="ltr">Two years ago today I started running for the first time, EVER. Needless to say, I fell off the wagon, got back on, fell off... you get the point right? But today I figured what better day to get back on track. So I did. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I tossed on my running clothes, packed everyone a lunch and loaded the car. We hit the park and Addi and Blake ate their lunch in the stroller while I started over with Day 1 of C25k. A few things I noticed along the way included the fact that Holy Cow is that big stroller and two preschools a lot harder to push! They pretty much walk everywhere we go these days so the stroller has been collecting dust too. So there's that, and the fact that ... shew... I am still not in the shape I want to be in. But we cover a mile and quarter. Then I watched them conquer the playground while I soaked in some sun.</p>
<p dir="ltr">I even remembered the sun screen this time! </p>
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This year I felt like I was really LIVING, present and in the moment.<br />
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The night before Miss A stayed up until the very wee hours of the night/morning waiting for her Daddy to return from work. Refusing to sleep, refusing to "wait" in her room, instead she joined me in our bed and watched Christmas movies, used a whole bottle of lotion on my back (but gave the best massage lol) and we talked. Hubs eventually made it home and spent some time with her, by this point she was fading fast but not before debating who would be on the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade.. according to her Luke Bryan would be appearing (right after she woke him up with a hug) and Santa would not be arriving at the end of the parade because "he is super busy at the North Pole right now Dad", after all he is "making all my presents!"<br />
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Needless to say her little up all night performance in addition to Hubs working so late derailed our plans of getting up before he left for work on turkey day to have breakfast together. Instead he went on his way to work, we snacked on frozen waffles, watched the parade together and cuddled. By "lunch" time Hubs was home, so we ssettled down for breakfast then with Chipped Beef Gravy and biscuits. He and the kiddos then took well deserved naps while I worked on setting the rest of dinner to bake.<br />
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Hubs was on call for work too and while he did get several phone calls that interrupted dinner a few times, he managed to escape having to go back out, so we got to enjoy our meal as a family.<br />
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I cannot explain the overwhelming sense of pride and joy when Addison said she wanted to lead Grace, and repeated after me. Or the joy in my heart as she ate to her hearts content... (remember those first two thanksgivings where we weren't even sure she'd ever eat????). Conversation flowed, mostly from A & B as hubs and I listen on. We talked about what we were thankful for... Addison and Blake both said "pie" lol, and Hubs and I both of course are thankful for each other and our two miracles (and a million other things).<br />
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We hung out and picked at the leftovers the rest of the night until it was time to clean up and head to bed. But not before we made a call to Santa, just to check in. Rumor has it that he will be arriving today to drop off our Christmas Tree.... (we had to tell Blake last year that Santa picks up the tree after the holidays, he didn't get why we couldn't just leave it up forever, so we promised Santa would bring it back again).<br />
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This morning I am very thankful that I got to sleep in and then woke up to monkeys jumping on the bed. We spent a good hour just being there, in the moment and giggling and playing, just the four of us. It was after that that it all kind of hit me and I looked back on the moment thinking "this right here, these are the moments I live for". Things can't be perfect always but for a short time, everything was right in the world and we are happy. I think it totally set the tone for today and made me really think and feel....<br />
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I've spent a lot of time worrying about how the holidays would impact me this year, and while I admit I did have a few minutes of anxiety which felt like an attack coming on, I was able to push past in and realize that I am here and in this wonderful moment and it feels, amazing.<br />
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Sure we didn't spend our day with family or friends but it was perfect just the way it was. And for that I am greatful.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Any content seen here is property of Our Valentine's Day Surprise except where otherwise noted. Use of this content is prohibited without expressed written permission.</div>Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316615388589262443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569162512765099030.post-32007373867982380932014-11-20T19:23:00.002-08:002014-11-20T19:23:18.969-08:00Breaking the SilenceI cannot believe it's been nearly a year since I've blogged about anything. Needless to say a lot has happened over that course of time.<br />
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Last year, just before the holidays, things got a little sour here in our house. First there were some major things going on in our relationship, which led us to couples therapy. Let me just tell you, that was the greatest thing I think we ever did for US.<br />
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After things settled down there, I personally began to go through a very dark time. And then, the panic attacks began.<br />
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Most people who know me probably know that I have this somewhat seemingly irrational fear of death/dying. And suddenly it was like everywhere I looked someone else was dying around me. Celebrities, mutual friends, someone in the news, in the community. And well, I freaked.<br />
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I'm not afraid to say it now. I was paranoid that I would be next. That I would leave this earth and leave behind my husband and my two precious babies. Or even worse, I'd loose them.<br />
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When my anxiety first spiked, I itched from head to toe. Then one day I was on the treadmill at the gym and couldn't catch my breath. I know now that was my first panic attack. Time went on and I kept trying to just, forget about it, but my triggers kept popping up everywhere.<br />
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One night I was getting ready for bed and the underside of my arm started itching and I lost it. In exactly 2.5 seconds I had myself convinced that I was dying of cancer. Why? Well because my dad died of cancer and job long before he died he broke out in this rash from head to toe and he was constantly scratching at his arms. So sure that meant I had cancer and was dying too.<br />
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This was after a terrible and very very real feeling nightmare that my hubby had been killed in a work accident.<br />
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Long story short, I ended up having a mental breakdown and spent the better part of 2 or 3 weeks hopped up on Xanax and literally lying either in bed or on the couch drifting in and out of sleep. For three weeks I was a zombie and completely relied on the help of family and God to watch over Addison and Blake.<br />
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Christmas? We went to Christmas Eve service where I spoke with out Pastor who prayed for so hard for us and then spent the rest of the service sobbing in my seat. I came home, we read "The Night Before Christmas" to the kids and everyone went to bed. The next day I felt very somber as we opened gifts at home, and then we went to visit family... where I promptly fell asleep on the couch right in the middle of it all.<br />
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If you know me at all you would know this is so totally out of character for me. I am just constantly plowing forward and moving on.<br />
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I followed up with a new doctor. We changed meds and suddenly around New Years Day I started to come out of the fog that I felt like I had been living in. It was such a slow process for me to get back on my feet and feel "normal" again.<br />
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Now a year later, I have learned a lot. About myself. About my anxiety. About my family. And about people around me.<br />
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I learned that at some point my body and mind were just exhausted from every.little.thing. that had been thrown our way over nearly eight years we have been married. And my anxiety is my body's overreaction to stress.<br />
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I racked my brain for months in therapy, not understandin why, at a point when things were mostly calm, did all this happen. And I learned, it was because for the first time since we found out I was pregnant, I was able breath, relax and process what had happened. That's when reality sunk in.<br />
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I could have died. I could have gotten an infection from being ruptured for so long and died. While trying to protect our children and keep them inside as long as possible, I.could.have.died.<br />
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We could have lost one or both of our babies. We came very close on several occasions to nearly loosing Addison.<br />
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I lived through some, a bit mild, PTSD as I came to terms with all that had happened.<br />
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I had to learn to let go of the guilt. Guilt about what could I have done different. Was it some how my fault? Every emotion I felt back in the NICU came back full force. Like I was living it all over again.<br />
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Guilt over taking time for myself, ever. After a solid three years of meeting Addison and Blake's every need. Working so tirelessly to get Addison to safely enjoy eating food. The hours, weeks, months, years of therapy. Where was there time for me?<br />
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Don't get me wrong, I had plenty of people who offered to help. But Hubs and I? Well felt it was our cross and ours alone to bear. And there was no way we could risk any of the horror stories happened if we went anywhere and heaven forbid there was an emergancy (mainly with A and her feeding tube). At the end of the day, I was utterly convinced that I was the only other person who could handle her needs. Was I wrong? Probably, but I also viewed it as a short term...thing...and I was bound and determined to see her through it.<br />
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Now, I know and understand the importance of being able to have even just five minutes to myself. To just, breathe.<br />
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And I've learned to ask for help when I need it.<br />
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I've learned to manage my anxiety so much better, and the attacks when they happen.<br />
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Now, I take a pill a day and attend therapy weekly to work on myself and learn how to continue to cope. Some day, we may try a different approach, and stop the medicine, but I'm not there yet, I may never be. And I'm ok with that.<br />
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Looking back I could probably say "could have, would have, should have"... but instead I'll say this, I'm beyond thankful for where I am right this minute. And even more thankful for all those who stood by me and continue to support me.<br />
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As we approach the time of year again where things all went south, I wanted to take the time to speak up and speak out. Because I know I am not alone. And I hope someone out there comes across this and reads it, and realizes they aren't alone either. Not just that, but because I've learned silence is not the answer. If I am silent, then the people around me don't know how to help. Most times during an attack, I just need time and space. And usually after, I need a little reassurance and maybe a hug. ;)<br />
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I'm also working extra diligently to make sure I find some kind of small time for myself and hoping that the same thing doesn't happen again this year. I'm learning to cope with that worry and fear as I continue to me strong for my family.<br />
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So if you see me and I somehow seem different. It's because I am. I've cut out sstressor and triggers wherever I can. Because now, now it's time to do for ME.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Any content seen here is property of Our Valentine's Day Surprise except where otherwise noted. Use of this content is prohibited without expressed written permission.</div>Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316615388589262443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569162512765099030.post-14530828858145696142013-12-05T17:35:00.001-08:002013-12-05T17:47:44.969-08:00Long Overdue UpdateSo yeah, I used to do this thing called 'blogging' a lot. And then somethings happened and well, some sacrifices had to be made and things got neglected. This blog being one of them. I doubt I'll ever stop blogging completely but the fact of the matter is that...it will come in waves, as it always has. Now that we got that out of the way, lets talk about those two little kiddos that I know ya'll adore.<br />
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You might remember me saying awhile back that sometime in Nov. Miss Addison would have to sit for an evaluation to determine if she qualified for the transition into Early Intervention's Preschool Program (not the same preschool that she's been attending once a week with Blake). Well we had that eval and ... SHE NO LONGER QUALIFIES FOR ANY EARLY INTERVENTION SERVICES!!!! After 2.5 years of therapy anywhere from once to three or more times a week, we are done. That chapter is closed.<br />
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The evaluators could not say enough positive things about her development. We've once again been reminded that we are one of the lucky ones. Addison falls developmental in line with the average peers her age! This is so huge for us. They told us that it is nothing short of remarkable given her history that she is doing so well. They would have never expected it. A miracle indeed.<br />
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I admit it. I teared up. It's bittersweet and a very proud moment.<br />
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They are both talking up a storm and I gotta admit, I am a whole lot scared that my children are going to be way smarter then I am. Don't get me wrong, that's a great thing and honestly I can only hope they are, but it worries me. Because of the fact that they will (and maybe already have) out smart me and always have one up on me. The things that come out of their mouths have left me very speechless on a number of occasions.<br />
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We're also still in the terrible 2's or almost 3's, but we're hanging in there. Naps are scarce, when it happens it's either in the car or they pass out on the couch while watching Mickey.<br />
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Look forward to some Christmas festivities coming up soon, and more on what's been going on with us. <3<div class="blogger-post-footer">Any content seen here is property of Our Valentine's Day Surprise except where otherwise noted. Use of this content is prohibited without expressed written permission.</div>Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316615388589262443noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569162512765099030.post-51014174926019901242013-11-17T18:37:00.001-08:002013-11-17T18:37:07.475-08:00World Prematurity Awareness DayI have not forgotten. I will never forget.<div><br></div><div>We are 1 in 8. </div><div><br></div><div>By now if you know me, the hubs, have met the twins, our family or read this blog; you know I am the proud mommy of 26 weekers who are nearly 3 years old. </div><div><br></div><div>Our story really began 3 years ago this month when just days before my birthday I had a terrible bleeding scare that earned my first bed rest stint. Gradually nearest was lifted to just moderate activities, things were going great and then my water broke with Lady A at just 20 weeks gestation. Thankfully we got 6 more weeks of bed rest before my preemies entered the world. </div><div><br></div><div>The past three years have been a lot of things. I've met a lot of other moms who have "been there" and shared our story a million times. I will never forget how prematurity has impacted our life.</div><div><br></div><div>I encourage you to help raise awareness by sharing this blog, sharing any of the March of Dimes data and most of all, educating yourself and others about preemies. Together we can all make a difference. </div><div class="blogger-post-footer">Any content seen here is property of Our Valentine's Day Surprise except where otherwise noted. Use of this content is prohibited without expressed written permission.</div>Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316615388589262443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569162512765099030.post-84165370148841098632013-09-25T16:59:00.000-07:002013-09-25T16:59:08.120-07:00Sleep...of Lack There OfWhen the twins were newly home from the NICU we went through a pretty rough patch of sleepless nights. At that time there were a lot of factors that played in to this, one of which being the space that wasn't quiet their own "room". Our bathroom was practically IN their room and well when Daddy came home from work late at night (or had to get up for work super early) inadvertently they'd wake. They also would often actually give me a run for my money when it would come to just getting them down to sleep at the beginning of the night. I tried <i>a lot </i>of different things to make it better. Keep in mind I also had one baby tied to a feeding pump all night too, which was a challenge in itself.<br />
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I remember being so torn because as I sat and rocked Blake she might cry out yet the power cord and the tubing wouldn't reach to the rocker so I could rock them both at once. Or I'd be rocking her and Blake would wake up. (It's actually quiet challenging trying to get one baby asleep while the other screams their head off. Add to that that most nights I was flying solo.) And I had these big dreams of rocking babies to sleep every night while we cuddled close as they drank their bedtime bottle. It was nothing like I envisioned at all.<br />
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Oh how I remember these late night parties that Blake used to have every night at midnight. He'd babble and coo and smile for what seemed like hours. As long as he wasn't in his crib. Then he'd scream.<br />
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In the end we decided to sleep train, in a very relaxed way. It worked after just a few nights, and we never looked back. Since then we've moved (twice but who's counting), and even those first few nights in a new place did not make a darn bit of difference. Heck they even slept in hotels like it was their home! During those early days we had bought a sound machine which helped them sleep through the night, and when it broke <strike>or someone forgot to turn it on</strike> they didn't notice.<br />
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And then... we transitioned to toddler beds. Aside from a few night terrors up until this point at almost 2.5 years old, they literally slept through the night and willingly went to bed/nap. Now all bets were off. Since the toddler bed transition, I'd say that 3 out of 7 nights a week we end up with someone in our bed, usually Addison. We've tried being firm, putting her back in her bed over and over, rocking, cuddles, massages, offering water, anything else we think of at 2 am. Sometimes it works, other times she'll sleep with us for a bit and then we can get her back in her bed, and then sometimes, she stays in our bed until it's time to wake up.<br />
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It's in those moments when she's laying cuddled flush against me, I am sweating bullets, and she kicks me in her sleep again; that I am reminded that there once was a time when she didn't want to be held. Or when Blake is making this noise he makes when he sleeps (sounds like "round and round and round" with his fingers in his mouth) and I cannot sleep, I remember all the nights he slept in the hospital "alone". And well - I am ok with it. Because ya know what? In the end there will one day be a day when they won't want to cuddle anymore. And for each night of sleeplessness, there are mornings filled with footsteps down the hall and an excited "Good Morning Mommy" followed by cuddles and a cartoon or two. It's worth it.<strike>But boy oh boy do I miss consistent sleep.</strike><br />
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Today Addison and Blake started preschool through the program I briefly mentioned in my last post about what we'd be doing <b><a href="http://ourvalentinesdaysurprise.blogspot.com/2013/07/preschool-part-1.html">here</a>. </b>We decided that it would probably be very beneficial to get them into preschool now so that <i>IF</i> Addison qualifies or come time for the next phase of preschool it won't be such a shock for them both. So - they are now going to preschool one day a week for two hours. Probably doesn't seem like much, but it's the structure that they both need and will benefit from as well as the interaction with other children. It's a 'non exclusive' preschool meaning while it is affiliated with the Early Intervention system it's not only for EI kids. (AKA Blake can be there too). Eventually they will increase to two days a week (or more) though that won't be until closer to age 3.</div>
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Their morning started promptly at 8 am with breakfast in bed.<br />
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Blake was so excited that he wanted his "jacket on NOW" and didn't care that he was still in pjs.</div>
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Finally we are all ready. (They wouldn't hold the sign for me though - stinkers!) And Blake was less then amused.<br />
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They came home from preschool, requested some yogurt to eat and then promptly said "Nap now". Off to nap they went and slept from 12:10 to 3:00pm! WHOA! Apparently they were worn out from their big day.<br />
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And then the afternoon shenanigans began.<br />
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All in all they did fabulous. They had never so much as stepped foot inside this place until today, but they walked right in to their classroom and began playing. No goodbyes, no tears, not so much as a look back at us. Just like that - they were off. Really I couldn't be more proud, but I admit; I choked back some tears several times after I dropped them off. I still cannot believe that here we are. A moment we weren't sure we'd get to have.</div>
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I felt foolish because really this isn't nearly as big of a deal as what 3 y/o preschool will be, or kindergarten - you name it. But for us it IS a big deal. It's a big leap. A moment we won't take for granted. I cannot wait to see how much they grow with this new experience. </div>
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(Never heard of them? Try checking out their smash hit <b><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8PvebsWcpto">Cruise</a></b>, personally I prefer the remix with <b><a href="http://www.cmt.com/videos/florida-georgia-line/909915/cruise-remix-ft-nelly.jhtml">Nelly</a></b>, but the original is pretty good too. Or even <b><a href="http://www.cmt.com/videos/florida-georgia-line/883222/get-your-shine-on.jhtml">Get Your Shine On</a></b> a song written about actually drinking moonshine, if you haven't figured it out yet - their a mostly country "crossover" band.)</div>
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Who I admit I hadn't heard a whole lot of. But turns out that he's actually wrote and demo-ed some pretty big hits for some big stars. (Ever heard of <b><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lb9q1ScC4cg">Dirt Road Anthem</a></b>? Yeah he wrote that.) </div>
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He was pretty good too, think a mix of <b>Hank Williams</b> meets <b>Kid Rock</b> with a large side of redneck and <b>chicken & biscuits</b> (yes he actually wrote a song called <a href="http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=colt+ford&go=&qs=n&form=QBVR&pq=colt+for&sc=1-46&sp=-1&sk=#ov_em">Chicken & Biscuits</a>). </div>
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So anyway I imagine you are thinking "what does this have to do with Mommy guilt?" Well here's the thing. I left before nap time on Tuesday, and by the time I got home they were in bed. For the very first time since they came home from the NICU - I spent nearly twelve whole hours away from them. It was also the first time that hubby had to fly solo for that long. I wasn't worried about how he'd handle it, though I did feel a little sorry for him when <i>this - </i></div>
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I also worried about how A & B would react once I actually left and the realized I wasn't going to be gone for just a few minutes. I imagined based on their track record that they would be fine until nap time when they woke up and I wasn't there, I was concerned they would be upset. I was right. I got a call just after nap time from a distraught Addison who just needed to hear mommy's voice. But hubby handled it like a pro. She got to talk to me and then he distracted them and they soon forgot all about me again. </div>
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In the meantime, here I am sort of "living it up" at the fair and all I could think every time we'd pass a kiddie ride was "oh Addison would have loved that" and "would Blake get on the helicopter ride?" Needless to say I think I'll be taking my favorite boy and girl to the fair before the weekend so they can enjoy it too! </div>
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I had fleeting moments where I felt like I should still be at home with the kiddos. But overall - it was so nice to have some time to myself and get to be ME for awhile, instead of mommy and (J) did a great job of making me enjoy myself. Haha. She had me on nearly every ride you could think of, it was a blast.</div>
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And then, I came home. I was just cuddling into bed when Addison woke up crying. She was actually crying for her daddy but since he was asleep and had to return to work the next day, I went I get her. The minute she laid eyes on me she sobbed about "I love you momma, I missed you. I need you momma" and my heart nearly broke in two. Me thinks she has learned how to play the guilt card early.</div>
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I do think its important for us moms to take some time for ourselves though. Not just for our own sanity, but for the sake of our children. I think this is especially important if you are a stay at home mom and you little ones aren't used to being left in anyone else's care. Speaking from experience here - my mom was a working mom and other then spending time with my grandmother while she worked, I <i>rarely</i> spent any time away from my mom and dad. And when I did, I had a terrible time adjusting. (Just ask my Godmommy who had to cope with a sobbing "way to old to be crying like a baby" kid.) </div>
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And not just time for ourselves but time as husband and wife as well. To nurture that relationship too, which is probably one of the hardest things to remember to do, especially as "new" parents. </div>
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For now though, I am going to go back to cuddling with my babies who are making up for lost time by sticking to be like glue. </div>
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<i><span style="font-size: x-small;">Disclaimer: The views expressed are my own. I have not been compensated in anyway. I even had to pay for my own ticket to both the fair and the concert. It was however, money well spent.</span></i></div>
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Use of this content is prohibited without expressed written permission.</div>Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316615388589262443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569162512765099030.post-92182052240951672692013-09-11T08:10:00.001-07:002013-09-11T08:10:23.651-07:00Remembering September 11 2001<div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUNOqSRGVxVuzIOU87GM_1HI4NHn6RYAObhhnbOz1Uy_bcO90GroHao5ulLfwUgYmv0MB9VgvHvAkPNjeUkvLZIxMrEQr8hi3vhjGhFmWsU0gSijf_ZXBcHks3j2E86YftGRYxuA18HuM/s640/blogger-image-1361947890.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUNOqSRGVxVuzIOU87GM_1HI4NHn6RYAObhhnbOz1Uy_bcO90GroHao5ulLfwUgYmv0MB9VgvHvAkPNjeUkvLZIxMrEQr8hi3vhjGhFmWsU0gSijf_ZXBcHks3j2E86YftGRYxuA18HuM/s640/blogger-image-1361947890.jpg"></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">I haven't forgotten where I was on that fateful day. It was my sophomore year of high school, I walked in to my science class and sat down when my classmate who sat in front of me turned around to tell me what had happened. It made no sense and none of us could wrap our heads around it. There were a lot of reports about other events besides just the plans hitting the towers. Threats that made me wonder if my own parents were safe. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">My mom works for a state department and my dad often traveled to DC and VA for work, could he have been caught in this mess? </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Absolute terror was all I felt. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Eventually I was able to get to the office and get a hold of my mom, she was ok. I don't believe we knew where my dad was at that point. The rest of the events from that point until we were all home together were a blur. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">I remember watching the news and footage over and over. Unsure if these was "the end" of the what we learned were terrorist attacks or just the beginning. Watching the President declaring war against whoever had done this. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">We all slept in the living room together for several days. My mom and dad, didn't go to work for a few days as job sites were locked down. We were grateful to just be together. Alive. So many others were not. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Later my dad told us he was doing repairs at our areas largest newspaper building. He recapped the mass chaos, people running around, newspaper prints flying it sounded almost as if it were something out of a cartoon - except it wasn't. It was <b>real</b>.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Our nation pulled together strangers helped strangers. We were all changed. So many lost their lives. So many signed up to fight for our country, our freedom, and against these terrorists. So many of those people died in this war. Classmates, neighbors, friends of friends, "kids" my age. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Several years later, as an adult, I had a chance to visit NY. It was about the time they had just began to break ground on the memorial. The skyline looked so empty, still. A gaping hole where the towers once stood. Standing on that sacred ground, you could feel the emotions, it was like you could see the blood shed and feel the connection who those who never left there.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">And now today, 12 years late, I wonder if my children will ever understand the gravity of what happened this day. I never far thought that there may have been an event in my lifetime that would make it to history books. Something they will learn about in school and come how and ask me if I remember. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">I just hope I can do them justice in explaining it in a way they truly understand. I hope they understand the sacrifice that our armed forces make to ensure this won't happen again. But reality is, I can't promise it won't happen again. Chances are they may very well experience something as catastrophic as the events that day. And <i>if</i> heaven forbid they do, I pray I can help them understand and cope. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="blogger-post-footer">Any content seen here is property of Our Valentine's Day Surprise except where otherwise noted. Use of this content is prohibited without expressed written permission.</div>Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316615388589262443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569162512765099030.post-23479942025845860692013-09-09T17:23:00.001-07:002013-09-09T17:23:46.326-07:00Does It Get Easier?Does being a preemie/NICU/special needs parent ever get easier?<br />
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I had to ask myself this today after reading a comment on a FB support group for past/present NICU parents. There was a very heart wrenching question posted by a family member concerning a very ill preemie with a lot of similarities to my sweet lady Addison. I held off on saying anything initially because even giving all the similarities the situation was different and I wasn't sure how to go about this delicate situation. I did follow the thread while I thought of how I could explain Addison's story and offer some resources for this person. It was the response before mine that shook me to the core. </div>
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I had to ask myself, if it ever gets easier. Does it get better? Will I ever "get over it"? And by "it" I mean the experience itself, the having babies 14 weeks early, watching them fight for their life and all that a came after; that "IT". I don't know that I will ever "get over it" in the sense that I'll forget what happened or certain things won't remind me of some of/any of those moments. But I do know, time has helped me heal - a little.<br />
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Day to day is easier. The worry lessens just a little. But the fact is, I cannot erase history. It's our story. I cannot imagine forgetting where Addison and Blake started or how far they have come. As days go on though my focus has changed from focusing on how close we've come to loosing them both to focusing on just how amazing of a miracle we've witnessed. The thought of another pregnancy or NICU experience still scares me - my scars run deep there - likely as deep as my physical scars from my c-section. And sure there are things that can take me back and unleash those raw emotions, and sometimes I need to cry it out. Other times, I may just need a deep breath and cover A & B in hugs and kisses to know "it's all ok".<br />
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Sometimes I wish I knew why we were one of the "lucky" ones and why so many others had to endure such pain. (Sometimes I often wonder <i>if</i> we'd get so lucky again.) I pray one day that "why" can be replaced with life and hope. The hope that one day we can end prematurity and save more of these amazing little heroes - that those survivors live a full life after the NICU. For me, part of healing has been found in advocating, raising awareness and supporting others.</div>
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So to those families still in the thick of the NICU, the days are long (and hard). It's worth it no doubt. And it does get just a little easier as time goes on. Reach out to those around you, those that have went before you and when you're ready - support those who will no doubt come after you. </div>
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I don't know for sure. In my heart I feel like I would have always remembered to live in the moment and cherish their childhood. Perhaps it was the solemn vow I took as a women battling Infertility in my early 20's, who watched countless parents neglect their children, that changed me.</div>
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I'll never know because this is the only life I've known. I don't have older children that weren't preemies to say I parented them differently before A & B came along. What I do know is that I am giving this my very best shot.</div>
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And perhaps for me there are things that seem HUGE that well frankly <i>aren't </i>HUGE to anyone else. Yes some of that I do know comes from the preemie mom in me. Watching a little one pounder in an incubator fight for life and wonder "will they or walk or talk, go to school or ride a bike". We knew the statistics, we<br />
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In the last two weeks alone I have been reminded a thousand times over of the two miracles we have been trusted with. From Blake totally acing a developmental eval. To the simply <b>amazing</b> growth, development wise, that Addison has shown. It wasn't all that long ago that we had concerns about her attention span (or lack there of) and her "safety awareness" (otherwise known as "I shouldn't jump from the top of the playground with no one to catch me). And now? Well she sat through an entire movie in a movie theater, she will sit through a short book and stick with a puzzle or craft for more then 2 seconds and is easily drawn back in.</div>
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For lack of a better phrase, she seems to be acting more and more age appropriate. Which is what the hope was for her, hence why we are still in 3 different therapies 1-2 times a week. She is becoming more and more determined to accomplish difficult tasks instead of just walking away like she has been known to do in the past. </div>
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I stood in amazement at the park while she climbed a ladder to reach the top of the structure and swung from monkey bars. She walked a balance beam and chased after her PT like you wouldn't believe. Just a few short months ago we had concerns about her balance and she couldn't take many steps without stumbling and falling.<br />
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And Blake, well he proves to be a great role model for his sister. She loves to do the things he does and he encourages her (always has) to "aim high". Though sometimes this gets them into a little mischief. I love how helpful he is, and how much he enjoys doing "chores". Now I just hope he remembers how much he loves to do laundry when he is oh say about 13 ;)</div>
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All of this just blows me away and overwhelms my heart (in a positive way) daily. There is always a constant reminder that we are blessed beyond measure. And I couldn't be more proud.</div>
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It's been awhile but I thought our adoring fans would appreciate a glimpse at these cuties again... </div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Blake has taken over my iPad. He enjoys playing Bloons and looking thru the pictures. Clearly it makes him very happy.</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Daddy teaching Blake to hit a baseball. He caught on quick. "Put the ball on the t and swing."</td></tr>
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We're all still here and doing well. Summer is coming to a close and life should be returning to the cool weather usual.</div>
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Looking forward to getting back to the gym on Sunday. (Maybe even tomorrow if I can sneak away from the kiddos while my mom is in town.)<br />
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And with that - I am off to bed at 10pm on a Friday. Living the dream right here. Goodnight and happy Friday night.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Any content seen here is property of Our Valentine's Day Surprise except where otherwise noted. Use of this content is prohibited without expressed written permission.</div>Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316615388589262443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569162512765099030.post-44707395556362311542013-08-13T18:40:00.000-07:002013-08-13T18:53:46.837-07:00Bragging About Blake<br />
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We decided to have the eval because we are coming up on their 3rd birthday and the transition to Preschool from Early Intervention (or Infants and Toddlers). To us, we saw no real concerns or issues (minus a minor apprehension about sticking things touching his hands or feet - think paint or sticky foods) with his development but we put so much focus on helping Addison succeed, we wanted to be sure. And because he was a preemie and had NICU time, he automatically qualifies for monitoring and evaluations through our county.</div>
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During the evaluation, they mentioned to us several times that he has a great attention span and he is very determined to accomplish tasks. And, we knew his speech was advanced but I didn't expect to hear that he is so far ahead. A 3 year old level?? THREE YEAR OLD???? Who knew! Plus he has some "emerging" 3.5 to 4 year old skills in speech. I guess that gives me a whole new perspective on his little attitude and some of the snippy things he says. ;) </div>
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They still highly encourage us to find more opportunities to expose Blake (well both of them) to situations and children their age in a more structured environment and feel they will benefit greatly from a pre-school program twice a week. She thinks Blake and Addison might even be ready for library story time! I'll keep you posted on that.</div>
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That pretty much wraps that up, and I owe all our adoring fans a post about all the cool things we've been getting into lately, I promise that's coming. (Think trains, movies, water and rollercoasters - and not the NICU kind). So stay tuned!<br />
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I am still loosing an inch to half and inch all over which is pretty awesome too. I am really starting to see a difference in my body shape and the way my clothes are fitting, and I am noticing some muscle and toning going on. The hubby actually laughed at me last night because I felt something weird on my mid section and it "flexed" as I moved in certain directions. Yeah those things are called muscles. There might just be hope for a six pack after all :)<br />
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Last Friday I mentioned how I felt like I finally had a grip on things, found a better "routine" and was really digging in and focused. It felt great. And this week feels even better. My diet has improved dramatically over the last week and I've seen more gym days this week. I was very proud that I took time to make it to the gym this past Sunday and got in Cardio and then did Strength Training on my own because I knew I wouldn't be able to make it to my usual Monday night BodyWorks class.<br />
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Monday I spent all day on my feet walking around/chasing two littles at an amusement park with one of my BFF's and her little family. I expected to be completely exhausted by the time we left but I felt really good still. We packed lunches and then ended up having to get a small meal there too since it was getting later. Lunch was a super healthy salad with chicken and veggies and I felt very full. Plus I carried a huge water bottle and filled it when needed. I am not sure if I was still running on all the excitement from that day or if I've finally reached that place where I am starting to have more energy and feel better about myself. (I'll go with BOTH. ;) )<br /><br />The rest of the week, I hit up not ONE but TWO BodyWorks classes, mowed the lawn (which is an exercise in itself) and then my hubby so graciously sent me on my way to the gym tonight for some Cardio. I burned 436 calories and walked/ran 2.59 miles in 45 minutes, which seriously is a record for me on the treadmill. So yeah I feel like I am back on track and really in deep this time. Committed. Hoping that feeling stays. I think I've finally found some motivation deep down inside and I really like the way I am feeling about it all.<br />
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How are you doing with your goals & progress? I'd love to cheer you on!<div class="blogger-post-footer">Any content seen here is property of Our Valentine's Day Surprise except where otherwise noted. Use of this content is prohibited without expressed written permission.</div>Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316615388589262443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569162512765099030.post-81289040888706035002013-08-07T20:11:00.000-07:002013-08-07T20:11:55.097-07:00Preemies and the Life AfterChances are you might have seen <b><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2013/08/05/opinion/end-of-life-at-birth.html?emc=edit_tnt_20130805&tntemail0=y&_r=2&">this</a> </b>article from the <b>New York Times</b> by now. I read it, and sat on it for a few because I really didn't know what to say. My mind when back to a few days ago when we had the honor of attending our first NICU reunion, and heard one of our own Neo's said something similar. Something to the effect of "Sometimes the hardest part of my job is to save these tiny babies. Because when we do all that we do, we have no clue what kind of life we are saving them for. Many go on to a lifetime of severe disabilities, so to see two 26 weekers doing so well - it makes it a little easier."<br />
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Not too much more far fetched then what the NYT author had to say. BUT - the author also says parents lack the appropriate education in these situations and need to be better educated. And further seems to make it seem as if saving a child so premature is almost torturous and inhuman. She also mentions about using steroids to help the child come of the ventilator and that it can cause Cerebral Palsy, and how risky it can be. Yeah we had that same conversation about Addison, but guess what? BEING BORN PREMATURELY INCREASES THE RISK, not to mention many full term children have CP too! The data claiming the steroids "cause" CP is inconclusive, because there is no way to tell if a child would have developed CP without the steroids. So if we are talking education, she miss informed his patient's parents right there. It also makes me wonder why she chose such a profession if she disagrees with much of the treatment? To all of that I have many many thoughts. Some which I can't even put in to words.<br />
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Somewhere along my news feed today I saw a blog post from <a href="http://www.lifewithjack.com/2013/08/are-preemies-worth-it.html">Life with Jack </a> in response to the NYT article that probably said it better then I ever could.<br />
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Is there truth to much of what the author is saying? Absolutely. Statistics don't lie, and parents do need to be well informed. Reality is that that conversation shouldn't happen just once. It should happen often throughout the care of the mom and later after the care of the preemie. Our hospital was good about doing NICU consults every week/stage so we knew what to expect should we deliver on this day or that day. But the very bottom line is that there is no sure way to know what the outcome will be. If you didn't know Blake or Addison's story - chances are you wouldn't guess they were preemies (aside from being a little tinier then their peers), that's even with Addison's <i>very</i> mild delays. And every day I am reminded that some of this could just be <i>Addison</i> and not a <i>preemie thing</i> we are just likely more aware and have been working on it because she was born early.<br />
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Please understand this - I am NOT in any way criticizing the parent who chooses not to sustain life in a child born at 26 weeks (or any gestational age). But I do want these parents to see what life with a 26 weeker (or two) is like. That's what this blog has been about. Sharing our experience. Sure we talk about lots of things here, but at that end of the day - raising awareness and knowledge will always be where my heart is. If we knew back then when I was on bedrest what we know now - you can bet your bottom dollar that we'd make the same choice. After all we were given the <i>choice</i> more then once about how to proceed with Addison. And you know what? Even with all she has been through and all the heartache I've felt as her mother, I cannot imagine my life without her and Blake. No way no how.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Any content seen here is property of Our Valentine's Day Surprise except where otherwise noted. Use of this content is prohibited without expressed written permission.</div>Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316615388589262443noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569162512765099030.post-81877503203510225002013-08-06T16:05:00.001-07:002013-08-06T18:12:41.538-07:00What's for Dinner - Tuesday EditionI have been wanting to try this dish called I<b>talian Wonderpot</b> that I found on <b>Budget Bytes</b> for about a week now. And I finally got around to it tonight.<br />
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Only changes I made was to us a whole box of fettuccine (16 ozs vas 12 ozs), minced garlic instead of cloves (2 tsp = 4 cloves) and a pinch of shredded mozzarella on top instead of feta. For the full recipe and instructions click <a href="http://www.budgetbytes.com/2013/05/italian-wonderpot/">here</a>.<br />
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It was super simple, smelled wonderful and tasted absolutely amazing. I admit though I typically prefer a thicker sauce and was worried I wouldn't be into this since it isn't very saucy. Boy was I wrong. The flavor was packed into the pasta and tomatoes. Even the kiddos who have been stubbing there noses at spaghetti lately LOVED it. Blake even asked for seconds.<br />
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It cost me less then $7 to make, serves 6 and was only 453 calories according to My Fitness Pal. <br />
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Ok well that's a lie. Last week it moved down, and I was so excited. Then I started going to BodyWorks class (think cardio and weights all in one) and it went back up, and then it didn't budge. Yeah I really shouldn't let my mood hinder on the scale, but what woman doesn't? I am working on it. And I've switched my focus and changed some things up. Truth is I haven't had a really good weight lifting/strength training routine. So far I've made it to ONE BodyWorks class a week, then I usually do Zumba one or two days and two more days of strength/weights on my own.<br />
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I will say this. This week alone, I have felt like I have done better at the gym then any other week thus far. I think I really have a good grip on working out now so that's a plus. I do want to hit up more then one BodyWorks class a week, but the times are all funky and that's the biggest reason why I've not been able to make it to more then one. But for the first time in a long time, I feel ACTIVE, and that's pretty huge for me. After today I'd say I am feeling much much much better.<br />
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Currently I am down 19 pounds - 6 pounds from my pre baby weight, which I've now made my next goal. And I need some new workout pants. I can make due with the shirts, but the pants are getting a little too baggy and/or I can't keep them up. That's progress! <br />
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I did think this was worth sharing though. Right is March, Left is today.</div>
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